What Your Single Friends Want You To Know About Dating

So about a year ago, I wrote two blogs as part of The Quarter Life Crisis Chronicles on millennial dating. Well, consider this an addendum to those posts. Last month I wrote What Your Friends in Long Term Relationships Want You to Know about Relationships, and in the interest of fairness I decided I also wanted to share an updated perspective from our single friends. So, I asked a few friends the following questions:

1. What is the most useless advice your friends in relationships give you?

  • You have to love yourself before anyone can love you. (I think you're deserving of love even when you don't feel you do) - Amber

  • The most useless advice is to lead with your heart. Like I get it the heart should be in it but the heart is unreliable. - Austin

  • Your person will come to you just wait and work on yourself. He will find you. - Danielle

  • Just be yourself in the early stages of a relationship. There’s plenty of time for the other person to discover who you really are as the relationship progresses. But leading off with your most wild traits may be a bit of turn off even to someone who’s into the same thing.- Aaron




2. What misconceptions do you think your friends in relationships have about dating?

  • A lot of them think ignoring someone brings more attention- Amber

  • That physical appearance is either not important or super important. There needs to be a balance between the 2. While it’s not the end all be all, they need to be pleasing to your eyes. - Austin

  • I think once they get into their relationship bubble they only remember dating their partners and think it’s easy. They don’t understand the hundreds of stupid things we deal with. - Danielle

  • Most of the friends I have that are in relationships have relationships that started during college and thus the people met in person before dating. This is not to complain about the miracle of online dating, but it does have its faults. With online dating, you never start dating after already being friends. Thus very very few of the matches lead to dates, but even those that do rarely end with both people wanting the same thing.- Aaron




3. What do you wish your friends in relationships would stop saying to you about being single?

  • That I would be happier playing the field- Amber

  • Well haven’t been long enough for the last question but when I was it was always “ Why are you so picky” if I’m going to potentially spent my life with this person gotta take my time - Austin

  • “The right person will come just be patient” He’s been coming since 2014 🙄- Danielle

  • First off, my friends have given up on me changing my single status so they don’t say much. And what they do say is hardly the same thing every time. But what I would wish, is that they would stop acting like the solution to the situation is easy. Dating at this stage for me requires a lot of vetting to make sure they’ll make me happier since I’ve grown used to the life I have.- Aaron

And there you have it. I really want to know how you felt about this? Relationship peeps l, was this insightful or insulting? My other single peeps do you agree/disagree? Let me know in the comments.

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Until next time :)





Briana Fountain