How To Build a Support System
Benefits of a Support System
There are many benefits to having a support system. In addition to being a cushion between you and the many stressors of life, they can also offer advice, support, and information during tough times.
So, what does a healthy support system look like?
Traits of a healthy support system
Well in short, they are people that feed into your self care. They are career driven and smart, accountability buddies who are relatable. These are people you consider mentors who you can have fellowship with.
With this being said, how do we build a support system?
Building a Support System
Well, you start with figuring out who your “go tos” are. When I started building my post college support group, I based it off of…. You guessed it! The seven Wellbeings. Essentially I have 2-3 people in my circle that I go to for each. As a reminder, the Seven Wellbeings are
Career - These are my mentors who help me navigate the corporate world and my career as an architectural designer.
Education - these are people in my life I can learn from and help me in my scholastic journeys.
Mental - These are people who I can call in times of stress and turmoil.
Physical - These are my accountability buddies who I love to talk to about new recipes, skincare items, and working out.
Social - These are my friends who I can enjoy time with while maintaining healthy boundaries.
Relationship - This is my significant other who I can enjoy time with while maintaining healthy boundaries.
Financial - These are my money mentors. They help me reach my financial goals and hold me accountable when I get off track.
Next is to build on those connections. I was very upfront with my support system. Like, I literally text them “ you are my go to for ______. Is that okay?” and I continue to work with them to grow in those aspects of our lives. After that, I begin to reach out to new connections and build my network. You first do this by identifying your needs. Then figure out what spaces where there are people who will be willing to help you. This can be at work, church, your volunteer group, etc. Then create genuine connections with these people. Support systems work both ways. Do not go into these situations trying to use people. If you are not looking for a two way street type of relationship, hire a coach. With that being said, once you have made genuine connections, learn when to ask for help. Because having the support system means nothing if you don’t use it.
And that is it! I hope this helps. As always, if you have any questions about virtual interviews, feel free to reach out and comment below! If you like what you read, sign up for my newsletter so you are first to know when new career blogs are posted!
Until next time :)
